For as awesome as Kristin is, she’s kind of a typical girl in some respects. She loves her purses.
I don’t get it. Every time she talks about a purse, I can’t help but think of that scene from The Devil Wears Prada where they’re talking about bags.
Nate: Why do women need so many bags?
Lilly: Shut up.
Nate: You have one. You put all your junk in it, and that’s it. You’re done.
Doug: Fashion is not about utility. An accessory is merely a piece of iconography used to express individual identity.
Lilly: Oh! And it’s pretty.
Doug: That too.
I Don’t Like Spending Money
Part of the reason I don’t get it is because I’m inherently a saver and I’m not particularly fashionable. I could be happy as a clam spending $0 on stuff; particularly clothes and accessories.
In recent history, it took a meeting with an executive at the company I’m working for while I was wearing my worn-through shoes to convince me to get new ones. Kristin even had to bribe me by using wedding money, and I made her pick them out.
In her defense, I really like these shoes and they’re awesome. But I was perfectly content wearing old-worn down shoes with holes in them.
I’m Not Fashionable
I get the same way about the rest of my clothes. I cycle through about 8 different Henley-style long-sleeved shirts each week.
My favorite sweatshirt to wear around the house was from high school – about half my life ago.
It’s just who I am. I’ve never been overly keen on spending money on things I don’t understand. For that reason, I have never spent much on fashion-related things.
Kristin balances me out so I don’t look like a total slob. She pays attention to fashion trends and bribes me to go shopping for new clothes.
And it’s that knowledge that has meant she’s always looking at fancy purses and bags, even if she rarely actually intends on purchasing them for herself. When she does – like one she got for herself a few years back – she saves extremely diligently to pay for it in cash.
The Three Bag Compromise
I knew that the inherent dichotomy of our fashion sense could be a source of contention if kept unchecked. She’d spend money on stuff, I’d ask “Why do you need so many bags? You have one. You put all of your junk in it, and that’s it. You’re done.”
But that wouldn’t fly. After realizing how much she likes her bags, I proposed a compromise.
Instead of badgering me for bags every birthday or Christmas, we agreed that she will get three bags from me for her entire lifetime. One bag in each stage of our relationship.
- The first, when we were dating.
- The second, when we were engaged.
- And finally, the last for when we’re married.
We both loved that idea. Kristin is happy that she gets three bags. I’m happy that I only have to worry about buying her three bags – and two of them are already out of the way by now.
That last one, though…I know is going to come back to haunt me. She’s got the rest of her life with one bag – and that means it’s going to not be cheap. Maybe it’ll be a nice 10-year anniversary gift? I’m already starting to budget for it.
Either way, I’m glad we reached this compromise. Everyone’s happy.
What sorts of spending compromises have you made with a spouse?